What I learnt this week: The unseen changes in us

Ahhh the end of another year.  A time when most of us reflect on what has passed and look forward to what’s ahead.  Well, that’s definitely what I do. Sometimes I may not be in the place I want to be (career or personal life wise).  Actually, usually I’m not.  Which is totally ok-  life seems to have its own plans!

However just because there may not have been drastic changes doesn’t mean things haven’t shifted!  I was reminded of this when I went to get my fringe trimmed this week.  Because it was only a small change  no one noticed.  But it was a change.  And one that I wanted.

So when I look back over the year I may not be where I thought I’d be but there has been progress.  Whether it’s how I react to certain situations with more maturity and less over reaction. Or learning to take a break when I need it, instead of pushing myself.  Or making improvements in my writing.   Things have changed.  I have changed.

Just because change isn’t dramatic doesn’t mean we haven’t grown.  It just takes baby steps to add up to these really big changes.  Unfortunately this is true of bad habits that creep into our world and take hold.  They become a permanent change that we could really do without.

That’s why it’s important to check in with ourselves .  To see how much we’ve grown without noticing or what things we’d like to changed moving into the new year.  Then we can see where we are and where we want to go next!

Cheers to that!

What I learnt this week: The significance of Sia

I was incredibly lucky to see Sia in concert last week. Or not see her you might say…

From the little I know about her she’s an extremely shy person. And lives her life away from the limelight.  Which was evident from the fact that she spent the entire performance standing on the side of the stage with a wig covering her face, lights rarely going near her.

Even though I never really saw the star of the show it was one of the best nights of my life. Her voice is what I was there for and it’s even better live. Sia stood  in the dark and let performers shine as they danced dramatically to her songs.

She’s not the type who is worried that if she’s not constantly in people’s faces she’ll be forgotten.  Which is so refreshing in the world where celebrities shove every part of their body down our throat or spout their ridiculous opinions.   She just lives her life and does what she loves.

Yes, I know she chooses not to live her life in the spotlight.  Which begs the question of why everyone is trying to live their life in the spotlight anyway? Is social media/regular media more real than real life? Because to me it just feels like an exhausting fight for us to prove how amazing our lives are.

Wouldn’t it be nice not to worry about capturing every moment but living it instead? Or not thinking that we’re so special we deserve to be adored 24 hours a day.  Even better- imagine not deriving our emotions from how many likes we get!

What if we could stand on the side of stage, still living our lives but without the pressure to perform for everyone?

What I learnt this week: Bali times

I never thought I’d visit Bali.  It just wasn’t on my list.  However I went for a writers festival and stayed a little longer for some chillaxing time.   I wasn’t expecting much from the place…But that’s the funny thing about expectations- when they’re exceeded it blows your mind and you can learn a lot!

This is what I learnt:

Bali time is different from regular time and you either learn to go with the flow or risk being constantly frustrated

Be careful what you wish for.  I went to Bali looking for quiet reflection and I ended up in the middle of the jungle with barely any food or human contact.  It was a little isolating (I now know how Jack Nicholson felt in ‘The Shining’).  After being by myself for 5 nights I was happy to move closer to town and enjoy some company!  So you might want something, get it and realise it wasn’t what you wanted after all…

There’s so much beauty in the world (especially Bali) and if you sit quietly to watch it you can’t help but feel the serenity in your bones

Make sure you enjoy the journey because you may never find your destination (even after 3 hours of walking in the blazing sun)

It’s really hard to be angry at Balinese people.  Even if they do something really frustrating- like forget to pick you up from the airport (and you wait for 2 hours)!  They’re so friendly and apologetic that it’s calming.  They don’t feed your anger and you let it go instead

Traffic is crazy but somehow it flows.  There’s no road rage, everyone just finds a way through and drives on

You can meet the most amazing people and have the most unexpected fun. Although that’s travel in general!

The phrase ‘a leap of faith never fails’ rings true when you watch a bunch of monkeys basically flying from tree to tree without hesitation

When you’re lost there are signs that will point you back to the way you were meant to go. They come is different forms- sometimes a tiny Balinese man with a huge smile might be that guide. Even if at first you dismiss him because you think he’s trying to sell you something. Guides are there.  Just don’t miss them!

Your best laid plans will most definitely change.  And that my friends is life all over 🙂

What I learnt this week: Creativity for everyone!

People tell me I’m a creative person.  And yes, I guess I am.  But I don’t necessarily feel like an arty type.  To me those people look like Andy Warhol- totally unique, unmistakable. So it’s funny that I actually am a creative person without feeling like it…

My creativity has always kept me sane.  It’s been there for me for better or for worse.  It never leaves me.  For that I’m incredibly grateful.  Because I’m not sure what I’d do without it.  So it makes me feel sad that others may not have an outlet like me.  OR more importantly think they don’t have an outlet because they don’t believe they’re creative.

I was chatting to my brother and he said- ‘well, not everyone can be creative.’  This isn’t true.  Everyone can be creative!  We just don’t all look like Andy Warhol.  Creativity can take many forms- cooking, gardening, making an inspirational wall (see pic below).  We don’t have to write a 1000 page novel to be considered creative.

You do whatever you want, how you want.  That’s what being creative is all about.  Having an outlet to let the inspiration flow.   And it doesn’t matter if it’s good or bad.  Who cares?  It’s for you, no-one else has to approve!

 Finally, your creative thing shouldn’t feel like a chore.  It should feel like something you can go back to any time and have fun with.  And it doesn’t have to lead anywhere either.  It’s just something that takes you out of the ordinary world and let’s you explore.

  Doing your thing should help you feel inspired and a little more connected in your life.   Just make sure you actually take time to do it- instead of binge watching everything on Netflix (which is valid but not every day).   Because in life it’s so important to find that thing which makes you sparkle 🙂