Monthly Archives: December 2016

What I learnt this week: 2016, oh what a year…


After an extremely challenging year I was left wondering why life does what it does. Sometimes it seems incredibly unfair and overwhelmingly insurmountable. You can feel so isolated in your pain and wonder why you. But why not you?

The thing is everyone suffers in life. And one of the biggest realisations I had was that life is fair in its unfairness. It doesn’t care if you are rich, poor, black, white, male or female. It doesn’t discriminate. It will deliver what it has in store for you without apology.

As humans we all experience the highs and lows of life. We are not unique in being dealt pain. But what is unique to our experience is how we react to it. How we learn to deal or not to deal.

We all have our own way of coping. For me I had to let go of what I thought should have happened and focus on what was happening in the now. Getting stuck in the WHY is not the place to be. But it’s HOW you cope next.

Because it’s just too darn hard to wonder why something happened. You can’t even deal with that- it doesn’t exist! What does is exist is the pain. And that is something you choose how to handle. And you choose your way. And each time you deal with pain you might do it differently. You might not.

It’s you that creates the person you want to be by what you choose. You can’t and never will be able to control what happens in your life. You only get to decide what happens after life has let the cards fall. Our choices are what define us. They show the character we truly are or want to be.

I’m proud of how I navigated this year of challenges. I’m not sure if I handled them the right way. But I know I’m here. And I’m stronger and more capable to deal with whatever life throws at me next. I did the best I could at the time. And that is all anyone can do.

I go into 2017 with my eyes and heart a little more open. I will make mistakes. I will fall and fail. But most importantly I won’t stop learning.

EVER.

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What I learnt this week: It’s critical

‘I’m done looking for the critics cause they’re everywhere.’  Yes Pink, they are.  And sometimes (most times) I really wonder if they have any value in the world…

I recently watched Arrival and The Accountant– loved both films.  No, they weren’t perfect (whatever that is anyway). BUT, they had unique stories, interesting characters and clear themes.  Which is a lot more than I can say for most films out there today- Transformers 357 I’m talking to you.

However, both films were critically slated.  Now, I personally take critic reviews with a grain of salt. Because it appears a lot of them must be smoking crack.  And if I ever went by a critics word I’d miss some incredible stuff!!!

Also I’m sceptical about critics who are solely critics in life.  I only respect their opinion if they’re in the trenches of the artistic world, creating content.  Because if they’re sitting back and judging another person’s creation without knowing what it takes to produce it- quite frankly they can f*ck off.

The thing is art is subjective.  Just because someone doesn’t like something, doesn’t mean someone else won’t.  We should make up our own mind.

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Something that I’ve made my mind up about is loving Coldplay. The world is full of people loving to hate them. But seeing them live again was one of the greatest nights of my life. So, I choose to ignore the haters.

And that is one of the best things you can do- ignore the peoples opinions that don’t serve you and enjoy what you want in life. Because there will always be critics. But as I said earlier- they can f*ck off.