It’s very easy to get caught up, so busy living your life that you start to travel down a very specific path. Closing off other opportunities- you can only see one way forward. Well, that’s until you get some perspective and realise the world is full of possibilities.
The best way to do this is by stepping out of your world. Because when you’re in your usual world, you only see that. I travelled to Laos for a little r & r trip with mum over Easter. I turned off my phone for a week and it was pure bliss. I didn’t do my usual routine. I didn’t cross things off a never ending to do list. I just was. I caught up on sleep. I did exactly what I wanted to, when I wanted. And for the first time in a long time I felt like I had space to breathe.
Not only that, but a different way to be. I don’t know exactly where I’m heading after my current job (as my contract ends soon) but that was ok. Instead of being filled with dread. I was filled with the sense of possibility. Anything could happen next . I don’t have to be worried.
But if I was in my little world I’m pretty sure I would’ve been overwhelmed with the prospect of being unemployed soon. Because I was on a break- I felt optimistic. I think it’s so important to get out of your world every now again. Turn off the phone. Turn off from the usual. And let the unknown be exciting, rather than scary.
Laos was one of the most amazing trips I’ve been on. It was filled with fun- bathing an elephant in the river, trekking through the jungle, cooking, visiting markets, cruising on the Mekong. You name it we did it. It filled me with a sense of wonder, a passion for the world. Which made me feel truly alive. Truly happy and truly present. Not planning for somewhere in the future. In the words of my friend Ellie Goulding I now feel ‘Anything can happen.’ And that’s no longer a scary thought. It’s exciting.
I was lucky enough to see Ruby Wax at the Melbourne Comedy Festival recently. Fascinating stuff! The show was in relation to her latest book- ‘A Mindfulness Guide for the Frazzled.’ I thought the whole ‘mindfulness’ term was just a wanky buzz word. But oh, how wrong I was…
Mindfulness will save humans from themselves…if we embrace it! Ruby talked about how much everything around us (technology) has evolved and how our brains are overloaded with too much info. In fact we technically have 3 brains competing- hence all the voices in our heads (no it’s not just me.)
They all want different things. And they all believe they’re protecting us. But the world has changed since cave times and we don’t have the same things to worry about. However our brains haven’t caught up with that. So right now they’re damaging us- because we are under their control. Using mindfulness to watch our brains try and take over we can become aware of it happening.
The is the trick- ‘AWARENESS IS THE KEY TO EVERYTHING.’ This was a light bulb moment for me when Ruby proclaimed these words. Once you’re aware of what’s happening in your brain, it no longer controls you. You can just sit back and watch the thoughts- they are not true, they are just thoughts! Through being mindful we can learn not to take on the falsehoods of our ‘brains’ trying to protect us.
Another huge way we can become mindful is to connect to our senses. For example you can’t be completely in the moment hearing everything around you and obsessively sculling wine, whilst trying to decode a some guys text message (for example). It gives you a break from your brain. Let’s you breathe and reset. Ultimately giving you a chance to think clearly.
I’m most definitely not doing Ruby justice in my explanations here but if you want to learn how to help yourself before your brain implodes- get her book!!! Apart from being extremely informative, she’s hilarious. So now I’m all for mindfulness. And if that makes me wanky- I don’t care!