I joined ‘Meet Up’ this week as a way to meet new people. And possibly new guys. I can’t handle Tinder or Bumble or any other ridiculously superficial dating app. But I also can’t handle being a nun.
So I signed up to loads of groups that interested me. Even weird and wacky stuff like ‘laughing yoga.’ Then it came to choosing a profile pic. I wanted it to be a true representation. Not me all glammed up. The photo I used was a selfie of me making a funny face somewhere on the Camino I walked last year. I look sweaty but happy, (see below).
Anyway, pleased with myself for getting out there I switched my phone off and fell asleep. I woke up to messages from ‘Meet Up,’ welcoming me. Which was great. Cool things for me to do! But then there was a message from a guy who seems to be using the app like Tinder. NONONONONO. Exactly what I didn’t want. Side note- what he wrote was flattering- that I was gorgeous and he’d love to meet up. Nice, right?
It is nice. BUT this is the whole thing I was trying to get away from- looking at someones outside appearance without knowing anything about them and deciding ‘yep, I’d like to date them.’ I could be a complete psychopath. (I’m generally not. But…) Just because I look a certain way doesn’t mean sh*t. And this is the whole damn problem with all these dating apps.
We look at a photo and think- ‘owww, they look nice. They must be nice.’ It’s unrealistic and downright scary. I wanted to use ‘Meet Up’ as a way of meeting people whilst doing something of interest. Not just meeting someone because I like the way they look.
It’s a slippery slope we are on with this dating app thing. Call me old fashioned but I’m staying out of it. If I can’t meet a human without swiping them- then so be it. I’m going to be out in the real world meeting people. And wherever that leads is fine by me.