Monthly Archives: July 2017

What I learnt this week: The need for SPEED!

This week in an effort to go beyond our digital dating system I went Speed dating.  It was a crazy, fun and very random experience.

What Speed dating taught me…

  • It’s OK to tick no when you don’t feel a connection. You don’t have to be a ‘nice girl’ and worry about hurting a guys feelings because you don’t like him.   As general rule it’s OK to say no in life.  Don’t say yes, unless you mean it.
  • Explaining who you are doesn’t necessarily mean you have to share what you do for a living. Because what you do isn’t who you are.  It’s only a part of you.
  • There’s no text, tweet, email to hide behind. It’s real, raw and you have to engage in conversation like the olden day humans used to do.  And that’s scary but exhilarating too!
  • It’s better to be honest because faking it with 20 strangers for 3 hours is a challenge no-one wants.
  • You have the freedom to disagree with people and share your own opinions. You don’t have to stroke other people’s ego.
  • The best idea is to go with an open heart and no expectations. You never know who you’ll meet and what great conversations you might have.  It’s also an awesome way to expand your friendship group.
  • You’re forced to talk to people that you might’ve ignored had you been in an ordinary bar situation. Because of this, your mind can be blown.
  • Everyone there just wants to connect with another human being. And that’s a really beautiful thing.  It’s not tragic, it’s not hopeless, it’s not pathetic.  It’s f*cking beautiful.  Speed dating is a brave thing to do.
  • It reminds you that it’s important to step out of your comfort zone every now and again. And more importantly to know that you can!
  • You make it your own experience by the energy you give out. Not everyone will be a match.  Sometimes 4 minutes will feel like 4 hours.  But at the end of a day it’s a great story.  And life is all about adventures- BIG and small!

P.S.  Going with a good friend definitely helps with any beforehand nerves.  And it’s also fun to have someone to have a laugh with after!

What I learnt this week: A little respect

Because I chose to pursue a career in the creative industries I’ve spent a lot of in-between time doing jobs I don’t necessarily find…let’s say- mentally stimulating. BUT I’m grateful for those jobs and the fact that I can fall back into them when I need to.

I recently finished a 7-month contract at the ABC. Which was right up my alley as far as industry stuff goes. Alas, my contract finished. So I went back to my previous hospo job.

And the funny thing is even though I’m not challenged in the position, I enjoy the simplicity of it. You can actually feel a sense of accomplishment when you are getting sh*t done. It’s easy and the days fly by.

It also helps to work with cool people! I was chatting to one of the gals and she mentioned going back to uni to get a degree, so she could be respected.  As she feels she isn’t respected in her current position.

Hmmmm, I thought.  Do people not respect me because I’m back working in the service industry?  Possibly.

Then I thought there’s people that occasionally disrespect my mum AND she’s a teacher. Bringing up the youth of tomorrow! She has a degree and has been in the job for many years. (I won’t reveal how many- she reads this blog).

The point is the anyone who doesn’t respect me probably doesn’t respect loads of people in different jobs. And hey- that’s on them. Not me. I’m the one that has to be ok with my life choices.

We spend far too much time worrying about what people think of us. And just because you have a certain type of job doesn’t make you a better human. What makes you a good human is being a good human.

So I may not be working in the most glamorous job atm but that’s ok. I have the brain capacity to sit down and write after a day at work. Which is what I’m looking for.

Plus- I respect myself and really that’s all that matters!