What I learnt this week: The big 3-0

It’s a big one.  But at the same time it’s also just a number.

When you’re 19, 30 seems so far away.  You imagine who you’ll be and what you’ll be like.  In reality when you get there it’s probably not what you expected at all!

By 29 my mum had popped me out and was married.  The likelihood of me doing either of those things any time soon is extremely slim.  But that’s totally ok.  We all have different paths to travel.

Even though society wants me to believe now that I’m 30 I should be married, engaged or at least in some sort of permanent relations FFS!  And own a house or an apartment, great car and be in a job I’m thrilled with. Oh and let’s not forget working towards my savings plan!  Sorry to let you down society, I’ve none of those things! But I’m happy (most of the time).

I’ve been reflecting on my life to date and I’ve had so many incredible experiences:

  • Played like a child in Disneyland
  • Partied in Vegas
  • Drank cocktails in Hawaii
  • Celebrated new year fireworks in Singapore and Thailand
  • Swam in Halong Bay, Vietnam
  • Walked the Great Wall of China
  • Caught a glimpse of a Geisha in Japan
  • Ridden a camel in India
  • Watched baby Orangutans play in Borneo
  • Witnessed a man walk on fire in Vanuatu
  • Shopped until my heart was content in Kuala Lumpur
  • Snorkelled in Fiji
  • Road tripped through New Zealand
  • Parasailed on the crystal clear waters of Mauritius
  • Walked over the peaks of the Pyrenees in France
  • Eaten my way through Italy
  • Lost my mind in Amsterdam and Barcelona for my last 2 birthdays
  • Dipped my feet in the waters of Loch Ness
  • Drank mulled wine at the Cologne Christmas markets
  • Tasted the pure air of Sweden
  • AND my favourite adventure was that I walked 600km’s across Spain on my own!

Best of all, during my travels I’ve met so many amazing people who are all part of my life now.

However this is just the travel side of things. In my personal life I have trained as an actor, screenwriter, dancer, athlete, PT, surf lifesaver and Body Balance Instructor.

I was lucky enough to light the Olympic Cauldron, in my town, when I was 16. I’ve travelled all over the East Coast of Australia working with Alpha Theatre educating kids on bullying, self esteem and how to find you inner strength. This was one of my dreams as a child; I always admired the performers when they came to my school!   I’ve produced, written and acted in 4 short films, all of which have been screened at various festivals. I’ve also acted and worked behind the scenes in Neighbours. I’ve been a Team Leader at the Australian Open, and Etihad Stadium in Melbourne.

And now I live in London. I always wanted to live OS! It may have taken me a while to get the guts to do it but the important thing is I did!

The icing on the cake is I have an amazing circle of friends and a wonderfully supportive family. The cherry on the cake is I’ve found the love of my life- screenwriting.

So anyone who feels sorry for me because I don’t have the conventional ‘things’ most people want, don’t!

Yes, I’ve had my heart broken more times than I can remember. Made choices which now maybe don’t seem the best. I’ve behaved selfishly and wasted time on hate. Fought against people who disappointed me.  Suffered bouts of depression, anxiety and loneliness, so acute I wanted to crawl into a hole and die (very dramatic, I know).

But I wouldn’t change a thing. These are the experiences that make us who we are.  Aloe Blacc said, ‘it’s not what happens to you, it’s what you do about it.’

My life may not be exactly what or where I planned it to be.  But I know what my purpose for being put on this earth is. And that’s the best thing in the world to me.  I will continue to write and grow.  And love the people in my life.

After all this reflectiony stuff I’m not going to go too over board with what happened during my work week.  We said goodbye to Camilla and hello to Patrick. Suffice to say there were only 3.5 (as Patrick was training) of us instead of 7 in my team.   It was HECTIC.   To make matters worse we had more tube strikes. It was a trying week to say the least.

A few notable highlights- writers group on Monday (good feedback on my work so far).  Dancing to ‘John Butler Trio’ with Shelley at the Brixton O2 and a lovely hair cut after 7 months!

And a new boy popped up on the scene…

My birthday weekend in Amsterdam was pretty DAM good.  Met Zoe on the Friday night.  It was late by the time I flew in, so we had a small bite to eat.  Then went to sleep in our hobbit style room (the lowest ceilings I have ever seen)!

Saturday got up early and headed to see the beautiful tulips.  They’re incredible.  The afternoon was spent strolling the Jordaan area- beautiful, arty shops and markets.  Late lunch.  Headed back to the room.  Pre-drinks.  Mexican for din dins.  And then may have tried some special brownies…

That night we also went for a stroll through the red light area.  Don’t really know what the fuss is about there.  It’s just really seedy and not worth the effort.  BED.

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Up early. Checked out the Van Gogh Museum.  Now that’s impressive!  I was amazed to learn he actually only painted for 10 years of his life!  Incredible.   After, we stopped for pancakes.  Then headed back to the hobbit hole.  It was time to get gussied up for my Birthday!

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Put our pretty dresses on. Cracked a bottle of Moet, woop, woop (I’m posh now that I’m 30).  Then headed to a beautiful restaurant on the canal (one of the millions of canals).  Shared a bottle of Prosecco.  Ate seafood for entrée, steak for main and strawberry tart for dessert.  Best of all a whole bunch of strangers sang happy birthday to me!    It was truly special.  And that was 30.

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The next day we took it easy.  Got on a bus and headed for the famous windmills of Holland.  Wandered around in the glorious sunshine. Ate our packed lunch, like good little school kids.  Headed back to the city.  Explored a little more.  Ate waffles.  Picked up our bags.  Then home time!  What a wicked whirlwind weekend!

Funniest moment:

  • Sitting on the plane home, just after take-off this guy runs down the isle and rips into the toilet.  I’ve never seen anyone run that fast.  It surprised everyone, we all giggled away.  He must have really needed to go!

What I did that scared me:

▪   Ate special brownies

Highs:

▪   My birthday dinner

▪   Van Gogh Museum

▪   John Butler Trio live

Lows:

▪   Getting up sooo early to avoid the tube strike

▪   Overcrowding because of the tube strike

▪   Oh did I mention the f&%$ing tube strike

What I learnt:

  • 30 isn’t what I expected. But I’m pleasantly surprised.  I don’t feel older.  But I do feel more sure of who I am.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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