What I learnt this week: My therapist…Adele

Last weekend I saw Adele perform live in concert.  From the moment she stepped on stage I was captivated. Not only is she exceptionally talented, her personality is infectious. You can’t not like her ‘I don’t give a shit what you think’ attitude. Although somehow she still manages to appear humble. I don’t know how the girl does it!

To be honest I wasn’t the biggest fan of her music when I first heard it. But I’m definitely converted now. And hearing her sing her heart out in the flesh only made me love her more. The raw emotions that she pours into her songs is the reason I believe she’s so popular, (apart from having the voice all the angels ever born).

I spoke to friends who were at the concert too and they had the same reaction when she first came out- we were overwhelmed and had a little cry. Not because we were sad but we were definitely overcome. Adele has a way of sharing a little bit of her soul that makes it a cathartic experience for everyone that hears her.

During the show I actually deleted photos of my ex-boyfriend that I hadn’t been able to let go of. It may sound silly but Adele shifted something in me.  Her whole performance was kinda like a big therapy session. Crying over loves that hurt us, laughing out loud at her jokes and feeling strong from the words of advice she offered.

The last song she sang was ‘Someone like you.’ Not my fav. However, after she described how the song came about I loved it. Adele never wrote it to get famous. She wrote it because she needed to help herself move on. And that resonated with people around the world. Clearly!

We’ve all been there- unable get over someone we’ve cared about. Told it will take time. And it will. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less. It’s been 5 months since my sudden break-up.  I’ve done all the things you do when it happens- cry, get angry, talk to friends, get drunk.  I didn’t get a drastic new hair cut but I contemplated it!  Because the thing is you do whatever you can until you feel ok.

And one day you will feel ok. One day you will stop hating that person. You may actually think of them and hope they’re ok too. Hope that they found what they were looking for. Hope above all that they’re happy (although maybe not as happy as when they were with you). At the end of the day the only healthy thing we can do is to move on because like my good friend Adele said- ‘Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.’

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