This week in an effort to go beyond our digital dating system I went Speed dating. It was a crazy, fun and very random experience.
What Speed dating taught me…
- It’s OK to tick no when you don’t feel a connection. You don’t have to be a ‘nice girl’ and worry about hurting a guys feelings because you don’t like him. As general rule it’s OK to say no in life. Don’t say yes, unless you mean it.
- Explaining who you are doesn’t necessarily mean you have to share what you do for a living. Because what you do isn’t who you are. It’s only a part of you.
- There’s no text, tweet, email to hide behind. It’s real, raw and you have to engage in conversation like the olden day humans used to do. And that’s scary but exhilarating too!
- It’s better to be honest because faking it with 20 strangers for 3 hours is a challenge no-one wants.
- You have the freedom to disagree with people and share your own opinions. You don’t have to stroke other people’s ego.
- The best idea is to go with an open heart and no expectations. You never know who you’ll meet and what great conversations you might have. It’s also an awesome way to expand your friendship group.
- You’re forced to talk to people that you might’ve ignored had you been in an ordinary bar situation. Because of this, your mind can be blown.
- Everyone there just wants to connect with another human being. And that’s a really beautiful thing. It’s not tragic, it’s not hopeless, it’s not pathetic. It’s f*cking beautiful. Speed dating is a brave thing to do.
- It reminds you that it’s important to step out of your comfort zone every now and again. And more importantly to know that you can!
- You make it your own experience by the energy you give out. Not everyone will be a match. Sometimes 4 minutes will feel like 4 hours. But at the end of a day it’s a great story. And life is all about adventures- BIG and small!
P.S. Going with a good friend definitely helps with any beforehand nerves. And it’s also fun to have someone to have a laugh with after!