I’m very fond of random conversations with people I don’t know. There’s something so fascinating about finding a connection with a perfect stranger. And it’s even better when that person opens your eyes to something that changes your life…
I’ve been working at the gym for a few months now. And there’s a cute guy that comes in regularly (not that I take too much notice). We’d never spoken- apart from the usual human greetings. However this week we had an interesting conversation.
We chatted about many things. But something that stuck with me was what he said about people driving in their cars and not looking happy. And he thought if they weren’t happy, then what’s the point?
Now, we can’t always be happy, that’s true. However this conversation led me to look at people when they’re driving (whilst trying not to drive into them).
And it appeared to me that no, in general people didn’t seem happy. But it wasn’t only that- they kinda seemed not there. Like they were zoned out and disconnected from the world.
It made me want to be present when I was driving. And not just let the zombie in me take over. I wanted to be here on planet earth.
This being present thing is not something new.
And what I found was that when I practiced being more present in the car, it started to spill into other areas of my life. Like when I was walking during a beautiful sunset, or talking to friend I hadn’t spoken to in a while or watching a film or blah, blah, blah. The list is endless.
Really being here made me more aware of how much I can zone out. And we all do it!
The funny thing is- we seem to live with such a strong sense of ‘Fear of Missing Out.’ But we are missing out on our own lives every day! When you don’t really listen to your friend or when you’re having a family dinner but you’re on FB or when you’re somewhere beautiful and you don’t even notice what’s right in front of you…
You’re missing out.
Because it’s not all the big things in life that are important (I mean they are but you know what I’m saying). It’s the every day life bits that we need to pay attention to. Otherwise it all flashes passed and we go- see ya bye 50 years of my life.
So don’t miss out.
This is actually really good advice for myself! Because it was a super busy week and all I seemed to do was run from working at the gym in sales or reception or teaching to working in the city with Tarz.
It was hectic and by the weekend I needed to stop and make sure I was actually taking in my life.
Caught up with Nicole M for a lovely evening at ‘Mexico City,’ (not the real Mexico City unfortunately). We ate so much amazing food and laughed underneath the twinkling fairy lights in the courtyard. It was the first time we had really hung out properly in 2 years! Long overdue!
On Sunday, Han I caught up on Chapel Street. Had a little movie date and saw ‘The Danish Girl.’ Which was incredible. We finished the night with yummy Vietnamese street food. And as I drove home, I was ‘there.’
Just driving along the road of life.